Onodoli bocansi abafana nempilo, abaziwa nangokuthi onodoli bocansi abangokoqobo noma onodoli bothando, bathole ukuduma okuphawulekayo eminyakeni yamuva nje. Labo nodoli baklanyelwe ukufana eduze nomzimba womuntu futhi banikeze umuzwa ongokoqobo wocansi. Nakuba abanye bephikisa ngokuthi labo nodoli banikeza ubungane futhi bafeza izifiso ezithile, abanye bababheka njengabangafaneleki nabalulaza ubuntu.

Umehluko owodwa obalulekile phakathi konodoli bocansi abafana nempilo kanye nobudlelwano bangempela ukungabikho kokuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Ebudlelwaneni bangempela, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kudlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni ukwethembana nokuqondana phakathi kwabalingani. Kodwa-ke, ngonodoli bocansi, akukho nokwenzeka kokuhlangana ngokomzwelo noma ukuphindaphinda kwemizwa.

Esinye isici okufanele sicatshangelwe imithelela yesimilo sokusebenzisa onodoli bocansi abafana nempilo. Abagxeki baphikisa ngokuthi lab’ onodoli bakhuthaza ukungathandwa kwabesifazane ngokubenza babe izinto nje zokwanelisa ubulili. Bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungabhebhethekisa imibono eyingozi yobulili futhi kube nomthelela ekwakhiweni kwemizimba yabesifazane.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abasekeli baphikisa ngokuthi labo nodoli banikeza ithuba lokuphuma kubantu abanenkinga yesizungu noma abanobunzima bokwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene ezinjengokukhathazeka komphakathi noma ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba. Kubo, labo nodoli banikeza ubungane ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukwenqatshwa.

Sengiphetha, onodoli bocansi abafana nempilo bethula isihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi esinemibono ehlukene. Nakuba zingase zinikeze ukwaneliseka kwesikhashana kwabanye abantu abafuna ukuzijabulisa ngokomzimba noma ubungane, kubalulekile ukucabangela umthelela wabo ongaba khona embonweni womphakathi ngobudlelwano kanye nokuguquguquka kobulili.