Ngombono wendabuko womphakathi: amadoda anesifiso esinamandla sokunqoba abesifazane. Abesilisa basebenza kakhulu kunabesifazane ebudlelwaneni babo. Ngokuvamile banezidingo ezingokomzwelo ezincane. Bazozifela ngabesifazane abahle belandelana baphuphe belala nabo. Kodwa amadoda anjena ngempela?
Engxoxweni kaBowie Tsang, sabona la madoda. Bashiya abantu besifazane bakhetha onodoli abadala ngoba bebelimele emoyeni.
Bancamela ukuba nonodoli omdala ophelele kodwa onganyakazi, bangamane basebenzise imali eningi ukuze bathuthukise unodoli wabo omdala wocansi, bancamela ukuhlala endaweni yabo yokuphupha, bangabe besaba ukusondela kwabesifazane.
Ngokuvamile, sizobona inzuzo yomuntu ngokwenyama. Angase abe nentukuthelo engase ibangele umonakalo emzimbeni wowesifazane, kodwa sikhohlwe ukuthi abaphathwa kahle. Bayasaba nokuhlaselwa kwabesifazane.
Ngokusebenzisa “Ngaphambi Kwakusasa”, siyazi ukuthi onodoli abadala bocansi bangathuthukiswa futhi bangasethwa kumuntu owuthandayo, kodwa ukubamba unodoli wocansi ongakwazi ukumisa ubuntu bakho kungakwanelisa ngempela ukungabi nalutho komuntu ngokomzwelo?
Indoda ethile: “Umshado wami wadonsa iminyaka engu-15, futhi ekugcineni wabhidlika. Ngangicindezeleke kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi. Ngangingafuni nje ukukhuluma ngobudlelwano nabesifazane bangempela. Labo nodoli bangenze ngakhululeka kakhulu futhi bangenza ngingabi nayo ingcindezi kubo bobubili ubulili. Angisafuni lutho.
Abantu bangase bacabange ukuthi lolu hlobo lwento luyaxaka, futhi ngiyaluqonda. Kodwa empeleni abazi ukuthi kunjani ukusebenzisa labo nodoli bocansi abadala. Ngonodoli bocansi, uzothola okufunayo. Lokhu kuzokwenza ube nentshisekelo enkulu.
Anginawo amafantasy ngonodoli abadala bocansi. Uma ngifuna ukuba nonodoli bocansi ngivele ngibeke leso sihlalo ekhoneni, ngihlale esitulweni ngiphuze ubhiya, ngibabuke, bese ngiyazi ukuthi yimuphi ongikhanga kakhulu.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Nov-30-2023
